Reflecting More Deeply Leads to Greater Success


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We are diving deeper into 2019 with the festivities now behind us. I remember so clearly how I started my journey with Taylor's at the beginning of last year. Life was filled with hope and enthusiasm. I had many goals to achieve, and without realizing, it's already been one full year. I'm happy to say that some goals were achieved. However, I wasn't able to fulfill some too. How time flies!

Setting Effective Goals

Just like me, you might have made some resolutions that you'd like to achieve throughout the span of this year. Sure, it would be great to earn a million bucks. It will also be awesome if I can finally carve out my six pack abs. What about finally getting to complete the book I've been writing? Yep, that could be on the list too! 

But, what I've come to realise is when I do not have a clear understanding of what I really want, my goals become scattered and unfocused. This makes it even more difficult to achieve them. And even if I do achieve a goal, it may not even be personally meaningful or satisfying. Achieving our goals can be more effective, efficient, and personally satisfying if we reflect on ourselves more.

Great Success Comes From Reflecting Deeply

Here are two crucial questions that you can reflect on to achieve greater success with your goals:

1. How is this goal aligned to my values and purpose?

We are much more capable of being motivated in the long-term in achieving a goal if we have a driving factor behind our actions. Our values and purpose forms the ‘why’ to our actions. For example, I value and prioritise my family. As such, I will be more committed to a goal that sounds like ‘to spend 30 minutes each chatting with my parents’, as opposed to a goal of ‘to learn how to play a song on the guitar’. On the other hand, a person who values creative expression may more likely pick the latter.

Having said so, what are your values? You may even look up examples of core values online, and you'll be able to see many websites offering lists of value words. Consider which words are most relevant and important to you in your daily life. Taking some time to discover what you truly value can be a simple and yet powerful exercise.

2. Is this goal SMART?

SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-bound. Most goals that we set for ourselves are oftentimes not clearly defined. When goals are not clear, our actions to get there are similarly so.

If you have resolved  to ‘lose weight’, it is beneficial to reflect on how much weight you would want to lose, by when, how you'd like to go about achieving it, and setting an amount to lose that is realistic. In the end, the goal of losing weight could sound something like ‘to lose 5kg in 6 months by working out in the gym for an hour, 4 times a week’. Sounds much better, right?

A New Positive Me

Indeed, every year offers us a chance to make positive changes to aspects of us. I'm hoping that this year brings about success in ways that you personally find to be meaningful. From what we've discussed, this can come from deeper thought put into our goals.

I like this quote by Gabrielle Bernstein, who said "The way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us".

Have a great one!
 
 

*Alvin Tan Kuan Sean, our Life Skills Facilitator, is also a qualified psychologist registered with the Malaysian Society of Clinical Psychology and certified HRDF trainer with a passion in entrepreneurship and personal development. His mission is to help as many people as possible by improving their quality and satisfaction of life.